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Are you a first time father? What you need to know….

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If you are about to become a father for the first time, this is what you need to know before you get into the overwhelming experience of child birth.

Be prepared

Nobody warns you, but the average labor for first time mothers lasts from 15 to 16 hours.
You could spend that time reading hospital pamphlets about dilations and middle ear problems, or you could dip into your carefully packed bag games and other light distractions.

You will be amazed at how a simple game can

bring you and your partner together while keeping your minds off the hours of active labor that are just around the corner.

Be present

Remember when you pledged to stay with your partner in sickness and health and in good and bad times? Here’s your chance to prove it.
You can offer her water as often as possible, reassure her through the pain and encourage her with each and every contraction and push. You may also be called upon to be her advocate in the event of an emergency.

Keep snide remarks to yourself

You may be the funniest guy in the world, but your partner will not find anything humorous when she is in the pain if delivery.
If your first instinct is to compare her pain to one of your old football injuries, you are probably not cut out to be a father.

Don’t take her insults personally

Pregnancy can bring out the best in a woman, but childbirth often brings out her worst. Odds are your spouse will scream at you, blame you for knocking her up, and even rue the day you ever met.
If her labor goes on long enough, you may also her utter swear words. It is important to understand that your partner is under an exceptional physical and emotional strain and her words are not a true reflection of how she really feels about you. Well, most of them, anyhow.

Tag someone else in

Some deliveries can take over 32 hours, with long stretches of time with little or no activity. If you are experiencing one of these lulls, you may want to briefly trade places with a family member in the waiting room.

You will return fresher and more energized and your partner will appreciate having another friendly face to support and encourage her.

Glow every single day

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Looking good is a confidence booster and it is also another way of relaxing. So, enjoy these seven beauty tips throughout the week;

Pamper those nails

A manicure or pedicure is a lovely way of taking care of your nails. Give your nails a punch of style by wearing nail colour that is deep; like the dramatic deep red. Dark shades are also an option to pull off.

Give them a soak

Maintain sponges and brushes you use to apply your makeup clean. Once or twice, wash them to unclog the germs they could have. Ensure that the brushes and sponges dry properly before the next use.

Scrub off that dirt

For a clear complexion, rid your face of facial grime and dirt by using a scrub twice a week. It is best to scrub after a soak in the bath when the skin is supple. Use gentle out-ward circular movements, avoiding the eye area.

Go for a massage

The massage is a language that communicates relief to the body system. You can enjoy a do-it-yourself fingertip massage on the face to stimulate blood circulation and ease stress.

Give hair a treat

Does your hair dry out so fast? Try a deep-penetrating hair treatment at least once a week. It will nourish your hair by adding moisture to get that healthy look.

Water yourself

Rid your body of toxins by eating fresh fruits and drinking a lot of water.

How to become a professional speech writer?

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To give good speeches, many people employ a professional speech writer. These people can give you excellent speeches so you won’t have to worry so much.

If you love to write, a part time speech writer business may be just what your inner muse has ordered. People stumble at the podium because they have no confidence in the content of their speech.

They keep wondering whether they saying the right words to get their point across. Or whether they are boring their audience to tears.

A proficient writer lifts these burdens from the shoulders of the speakers by providing him or her with an engaging script.

People employ writers who understand the structures and styles of effective speeches. Four key elements will bolster success:

Learn all you can from your client – nailing the details is vital.
Make the first words of the speech as bold as a newspaper headline. Grab the audience right away, and then hold their attention with a speech which is both informative and entertaining.
Target your specific audience. Know who they are. The subject and tenor of a speech must fit its audience. A bright, heartfelt wedding speech will surely please a bride and groom, but that same spirit may not play well in a room full of judges. The people listening are just as important as whoever is speaking.
Give the speech a theme test. Would you want to hear it? Write with the polish and finesse you would no doubt employ if you were writing the speech for yourself. Every speech, short or long, is important.

Who Needs A Speech Writer?

From those toasting at weddings to corporate CEOs, everyone makes speeches, and a professionally written speech can be worth its weight in gold.

For motivational speakers and salespersons, that speech directly means dollars and cents.
For wedding toasts, it means no blunders that could mar wedding memories meant to last a lifetime. A quality speech eases the fear of speaking and uplifts the speaker’s stature.

Expanding the Business

If you write effectively, you can easily expand your business. In addition to producing speeches, offer your services as a copywriter, a ghost writer, and a freelance writer.

You can also take advantage of other related opportunities such as offering a course in public speaking through your local community college or creating a Tips For Effective Public Speaking to hand out. As with any small business, thinking outside the box will help your bottom line grow.

Marketing Yourself

If you want to work, tell the world who you are and what you offer. Advertise your speech writing business in print and online. Join speaking clubs, target companies through direct mail, and provide samples of speeches, content copy, and articles to prospective clients.

Ask each client who hires you to write a brief review of your work. Recommendations foster jobs and existing customers cultivate new ones.
Now that you know how to get into the industry, start writing! You’ll get enough experience to sell yourself as a professional speech writer in no time.

Earn from Coffee Farming

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In Uganda Coffee (Emwanyi as it is locally termed) is the leading foreign exchange earner. The coffee plant is mainly grown for its berries which are grinded to give a caffeine beverage.

Robusta and Arabica Coffee are mainly grown here in Uganda. Growing cloned Robusta coffee is a highly paying investment and it is now the crop for the young and elderly to resort to if they want good money quickly. Besides growing pretty fast it is high yielding and it has a large bean size.

The farmer should also ensure that the nursery bed from which he or she intends to get the plantlets from is well recommended by the area agricultural services extension officer; plant the right size of plantlets at the beginning of the rain season since initially they need good soil moisture to grow.

Tips for your coffee farming garden;

  1. Spacing: The spacing between Robusta plants is 10 feet by 10 feet and between Arabica ones is 8 feet by 8 feet.
  2. Dig right size holes – 2 feet long x 2 feet wide x 2 feet deep.
  3. While digging holes: heap the top soil on one side and bottom soil on another side.
  4. Add manure to the dug-out soil and return it into the holes.
  5. Mark the center of the holes and leave them for 2 – 3 months before planting.
  6. Obtain coffee plantlets from Certified Coffee Nurseries.
  7. During the planting season, plant very early in the morning or late in the evening.
  8. Remove the polythene pot cover before planting the seedling/cutting.
  9. Provide temporary shade to the newly planted coffee plantlets and water in case of water stress. Water conservation channels/bands are important in coffee.
  10. When the coffee plantlets have attained a height of about 11/2 foot or 6 – 9 months after planting, they should be trained (bent in an east to west direction i.e. sunrise to sunset direction) to initiate multiple branches from which the lowest and most healthy 2 are selected and maintained together with the original plantlet. This ensures higher yield and profitability per tree.
  11. The coffee garden should always be mulched and “weed free”
  12. Beans and bananas are good intercrops for coffee.
  13. Continuous de-suckering of the coffee plants should be practiced in order to prevent development of a micro climate that encourages pests such as Black Coffee Twig Borer (BCTB).
  14. At maturity, harvest only the red-ripe cherry and dry it immediately on tarpaulins, raised platforms or cemented floor to preserve its good quality.

How to earn from Coffee Farming
There are two coffee seasons in a year, a farmer can harvest about 8000kgs in a year taking average of four Kilos per tree. Taking Shs2,000 as the average price of Kiboko (unshelled coffee cherries), a farmer is able to earn a gross profit of Shs16m. Thus two acres which a serious commercial farmer can manage can make you Shs32m. This is for a farmer who cannot afford to add value to his coffee.

Make it a point for coffee to go through primary processing/hulling or removing of husks from dried cherries. This shelled clean coffee is referred to as FAQ (Fair Average Quality) and fetches higher prices compared to Kiboko. The more you add value to your coffee, the higher the returns.

How to make a long distance relationship work

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Long distance relationships can be tiring and actually stressful but when the one you love is miles away, you have no option but accept the situation.

It requires a lot of commitment, trust and communication to make it work. Studies show that the majority of people involved in long distance relationships eventually breakup.

But with determination the two of you can make it work.

COMMUNICATE

Make sure the both of you bridge the gap of proximity through the different types of communication. The internet is the commonest means of communication that most couples in long distance relationships use.

Send each other emails every day, tell each other how your day was and how much you miss each other, it makes a difference. You also take advantage of the free or cheaper Internet services like Skype where you can video chat with your loved one.

This will help you feel closer even though you’re so far away from each other.

EXPRESS YOUR FEELINGS

Always express your feelings to your partner on the phone, emails, letters and video chats you have with them. Let them know how life with them is lonely, how much they mean to you, how much you miss the silly games you used to play. This will enhance growth and stability in your relationship. This is because your partner is assured of your commitment.

SEND EACH OTHER GIFTS

Every now and then send each other personalized gifts because they mean a lot to your loved one .This means that you have them at heart even though they are so far away from you.

The more personalized the gift is, the greater the impact on your partner. They will also be very impressed with your thoughtfulness.

SPEND TIME TOGETHER WHILE YOU ARE APART

You can still spend time together even though you’re far away from each other. This can be done if you both create time for each other .For example if you both love football organise a day when you are both free and watch are match when it’s done call each other and discuss it, it

Will be a good shared moment for the both of you hence bridging the distance between the two of you.

PLAN REGULAR MEETINGS

Always ensure that you meet often to keep your commitment stronger. The two of you need to plan on visiting each other at leasst three times a year .
When you cancel meeting, it sends a negative impression to your partner meaning that your other plans are more important than the meetings with your partner.

SHARE PASSIONS

The best thing about long distance relationships is the fact that you get to know your partners dislikes, likes and passions. If he likes football please make sure you learn all the rules of football so that the next time you meet you’re able to discuss it.

You should also find out passions you both share so your able to appreciate each other more

How good are you with speaking in front of a large crowd?

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Is speaking in front of a large crowd your worst nightmare?
Does stage fright leave you tongue-tied?
Do you go blank at the sight of a microphone?

Take heart, to quote Michael Jackson’s song, you are not alone. Half the world, I suppose shudders at the mere thought of speaking in public.

The other half, in my imagination, is dominated by all the consuming fear of a visit to the dentist for a root canal.

No prizes for guessing which half you would rather belong to.
If you are inclined to believe that public speaking is confined only to the social and corporate world, brace yourself for the truth.

A mother giving her point of view at a school meeting, a father raising a toast at his daughter’s wedding and a teenager paying tribute to his parents at their silver wedding anniversary are, but a few, examples of situations that call for public speaking.
So, drop you ‘locked jaw’ and get your vocal chords going with some useful tips.

Draft craft: A good speech is drafted in three parts. An impressive beginning, an interesting middle and a powerful conclusion.

Know your subject: Conviction is contagious. Once you are convinced about your subject, words will flow and you are bound to captivate your audience.

Feel comfortable: If large numbers intimidate you, your audience can tell from your body language. Try this simple mental trick. Imagine you are in your sitting room talking with your family members. You will notice your nervousness disappearing and your audience beginning to connect with you.

First impression is the last impression: Begin your speech with an interesting story, a quote or some power-packed words that will catch the attention of your audience. Remember, you don’t get a second chance to make a first impression.

Length ‘wise’: I once read an anecdote about a speaker who went on speaking endlessly. After his speech, he reached out to a man in the front row and asked; “How was my speech?” The man replied, “Very refreshing! I felt like a new man when I woke up!”

Do not go into overdrive. It is sure to kill your speech, if not your audience.

‘Gift’ wrap it: Wrap up your speech like you would, a gift. With a special touch. Use punch lines, rhetoric, or even humuor to create a lasting impression.

Also, be sincere, be brief and then take your seat.

Wrap up in style

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It’s amazing how a shawl still remains stylish no matter the weather. Be it during the cold, hot or warm season. Shawls or scarves come in different designs, colors as well as materials. There are cashmere shawls which are woolen, soft and airy, Cotton ones which are mixed together with wool, silk and cotton. You can get a pashmina shawl depending on the occasion or weather.

For a sun-drenched day, silk, satin and cotton scarves are a perfect selection. For drizzly or chilly days like has been the case lately, a cotton, hand loom cashmere pashmina shawl will come in handy. When draped over your shoulders, upper body and around your neck, it makes you feel warm. A collar shoulder wrap or full shoulder wrap will do therefore. This style will keep your arms and shoulders warm.

Shawls can be worn on diverse styles. A European knot, neck wrap shawl and front knot can be worn to office or any other official occasion. A collar shoulder wrap and neck wrap can be worn on any occasion (office, party, or casual outing). More so, a simple wrap (over the neck) front accent drape and carried are perfect for a party or any other ceremony.

You can also get away with your shawl over a glamorous dress without ruining your attire on a cold day. In this case, you can have your shawl in the neck-wrap style where you wrap the shawl around your neck. It can also be worn over your shoulders or one shoulder only.

Alternatively, have a front assent drop which is covering your chest and letting the shawl ends drop on your back. You can also have it in the front knot style where you wrap the shawl around your neck and have it knotted at the front.

Nonetheless it is vital to choose colors that blend with your outfit and compliment it because a shawl is also an accessory.
Shawls can be found in most shopping arcades like Avemar Shopping Centre, Maria’s Galleria and Sunset Arcade. Prices range from shs15, 000 to shs45, 000. Then again, you can buy material and have a shawl tailor made to suit you and your outfits.

Feet and Nails

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Feet have to be taken care of. One way of doing this is by making certain that your nails are kept clean and neat. A pedicure, given by a professional is the answer. Avoid chipped nail polish with dirt composed underneath your nails. Plan a routine for suitable nail care and be sure to have a pedicure done twice a week. If you have in-growing nails that slash into your flesh, it is important to trim them in time.

Ideally, a proper pedicure begins with soaking in a foot spa for about 30 minutes. The procedure of soaking the feet softens the skin and eases the cutting of the nails. “When the skin is soft, it is easy to scrub. We also use a smoothener. Scrubbing the feet removes the dead skin, especially if the skin (or heel) is cracked.” says Hassan Kaggwa, a manicurist/pedicurist who operates from one of the salons in Majestic Plaza.

After cautiously removing the cuticle, the feet are then massaged, to boost blood circulation. After the massage, a lotion is applied to the feet and legs to moisturize them and keep the skin supple. The nails are then cut and filed into the client’s preferred shape. Most people usually cut their nails into flat or square shapes.

Eventually, a protector is applied to the nails first, followed by two coats of nail polish and lastly nail hardener (to give the nails sheen). When the nails dry, one is ready to put their perfect feet forward. A pedicure costs between shs15, 000 and shs20, 000 depending on where one has it done from.
It is important to remove the nail polish after a week; otherwise one’s nails may get discolored. One should seek garlic and calcium to keep their nails strong and healthy

Let your children learn your language

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Mother tongues are dying out in contemporary society but their importance is greatly underestimated.

Kenneth uses his mother tongue whenever he holds a conversation with his three-year old daughter. His wife Jackie, unfortunately, comes from a different community and doesn’t understand the language.

She argues that they should use English and Luganda (a widely-spoken Ugandan language), to ensure that no one is left out of conversations at home.
Jackie’s argument is a logical one, but, if implemented, would rob her daughter the benefit that comes with being multi-lingual.

Indeed, both parents should remember that they are speakers of three different languages and ignoring the others mother tongue will limit their child to only English and a little bit of Luganda that she may pick from school and the neighborhood.

The problems with ‘home language’, as a mother tongue is often referred to, are not exclusive to intermarriages.

In contemporary society, there are parents who feel that their children are cosmopolitan and as such don’t need to learn or speak their mother tongue as it is inferior.

Most of them see their mother tongue as an inferior language and do their best to avoid s it in an attempt to appear enlightened.

Many parents do not speak their mother tongues at home with their children in spite of the fact that it has been proved that children who are exposed to their mother tongues are more advantaged than those who are not.

Children admire their parents and uphold their values and therefore appreciate the language used at home.

So, if they notice that a language is being avoided, they also detest it.
And if they realize that the detested language is associated with their roots, they may try to disown those roots for the rest of their lives.

Although it may be necessary to encourage children to use the official language taught in school, punishing them for use of their mother tongues (a common practice in schools) destabilizes their base for learning. In fact, it is argued that making a child renounce his language destroys that child’s self-image.

There are parents who introduce their children to the mother tongue from infancy but before but before the child can master it properly, they are enrolled into pre-school/kindergartens, where a new language is introduced.

In an effort to help their children cope with the demands of school, many parents abandon the native language, afraid that it could confuse and interfere with the academic performance of their children and in the end have them lag behind in class work.

It is worth noting that mother tongues are fragile and if not consistently used at home, they can be easily forgotten from a child’s mind.

It is, therefore wise for parents to ensure that the introduction of anew language at school does not overshadow the effort to expose their children to their mother tongue.
Most children become conversant in any language that is learnt before the onset of adolescence.

It has also been established that children who are multi-lingual perform better at school than those who speak one or two languages.
Research suggests that, as the brain switches from one language to another, cognitive flexibility is enhanced. This promotes creativity, problem-solving ability and divergent thinking amongst the children.

Although a number of languages irrespective of their origins is beneficial, children who grow up in an environment where their mother tongue is embraced develop high self-esteem and confidence and the ability to function optimally.

In addition, languages are an integral part of each community’s identity and a child who doesn’t learn her/his mother tongue may suffer an identity crisis at some point in their life.

How to teach the children their mother tongue

Establish a strong home language policy. Parents should use their mother tongue when communicating with their children on a daily basis.
Introduce the second language policy. However, this one should not replace the first language.
Speak positively about your native language. This will make the children proud of the language.
Tell them stories using the language you want them to learn. Songs and rhymes can also be used.
Provide opportunities for them to interact with their relatives who are fluent with the language.
Also, as they learn, refrain from teasing remarks about how poorly they may have pronounced certain words.

Why you need to change career

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Are you fed up with juggling the same job every day? Do you dread going to work? Have you lost motivation for the job you previously did with passion? The fact is that there is nothing wrong with you, but with you. What you need is a career change.

George Apiro, the head of guidance and counseling at the Ministry of Education, however, says career change requires a number of strategies and decisions to take. “Career change doesn’t enable you to utilize your potential to another where you can utilize it fully,” he says. “This career should be able to respond to your inner most attitude, interest and social inclinations.”

Moving from one career to another is not a one-night decision. You need to carry out a lot of research in the new area you want to tread, and looking at who you are to re-discover yourself and interests. It involves looking at what you generally like and do not like, experts say.
According to Obed Niwagaba, a consultant at Development Planning Consultants, a career change may require re-training. “When you discover that you have potential for a particular calling and you want to change to it, you have to develop potential fully by training in that area,” he says.

Do you want to change your career but don’t know what to do? Don’t be discouraged. Niwagaba advises that apart from doing proper research, one must always have ‘plan B’ in case things don’t work out as hoped.

Explore new opportunities within your area of competence and expertise. A career guidance counsel can help you navigate the right field basing on your talents and interests. Besides, one can utilize the skills and experiences they have already gained. Apiro says there is always linkage to what one wants to do and what one has been doing.

“People, who change careers, do not move far away from the general category of what they have been doing. For instance a teacher of accounts can move to commerce, but accounting still remains a key area in his life. Though he may leave teaching, he might work in a bank as a cashier while practicing his accounting”.

However, sometimes people move from a broad career category to a completely new area, says Apiro. “This is often due to a blunder made at school. May be your career choice was interfered with by the interests of your peers, friends and teachers or family members.” To make a good career change in such a case, one needs to make choices considering his or her interests and capabilities.
Why people change careers.

Many people change careers when they find that their jobs have become routine. Some people want to find challenging opportunities. “Human beings are always looking for a challenge. That is when they are motivated to work harder.”
Niwagaba says that sometimes people change careers due to circumstances. “Forinstance, my original career was teaching. I had no intention of changing, but circumstances dictated that I change swiftly,” he says.
“I was a grade 2 teacher and the Ministry of Education announced that it was going to phase out grade 2 teachers. I decided to join secondary education to advance. As I was teaching, I had to study ordinary and advanced levels. Fortunately, I passed well and joined Makerere University where I studied SWASA. Thereafter, I had to change from being a teacher to an administrator.

Do a careful self-evaluation before you change your career as you might find yourself jumping from a pan into the fire. You should also avoid changing career due to your emotions. Apiro argues that when one changes their career due to emotions, they may end up being frustrated and hence, regret the career move. However, all hope should not be lost, in case things go wrong, you can revert to your former career.